I never knew I was an Introvert. I use to make up many reasons or excuses of why I couldn’t go somewhere or do something. Why was I like this? Maybe I’m weird, maybe there is something wrong with me I use to tell myself. Ive always felt like this since I was a little girl.
I would go and stay with a friend or family member for two day’s and would need four day’s to reconnect with myself I would feel so drained. Im so tired of hearing and seeing people saying there is something wrong with them because they feel this way!
I started researching and came across the true meaning of a ‘Introvert’ and not the mean judgemental phase people can call someone if they don’t want to go to a party. And the very annoying definition of being ‘shy’.
Opposite of extrovert. A person who is energized by spending time alone. Often found in their homes, libraries, quiet parks that not many people know about, or other secluded places, introverts like to think and be alone.
Contrary to popular belief, not all introverts are shy. Some may have great social lives and love talking to their friends but just need some time to be alone to “recharge” afterwards. The word “Introvert” has negative connotations that need to be destroyed. Introverts are simply misunderstood because the majority of the population consists of extroverts.
– Urban Dictionary
I love spending time with friend’s for cocktails and a good conversation, or spa day’s and even love dancing and function’s. But I don’t like doing this a lot and it really depend’s on the person Im meeting up with and that’s ok.
I am so quick in perceiving and understanding what people say and mean.
It can be so easy for Extrovert’s to label us as shy, boring, moody, lonely, that we actually start believing we have a problem.
So how do we connect and celebrate ourselves?
Recharge your energy – Unlike extroverts who recharge by interacting with people, us Introvert’s get drained. We need quite spaces to recharge. Don’t worry if you’re not excited about going to party, Introverts normally need that connection with themselves to feel reconnected. Do activities that make you happy, reading, trashy tv, drawing, cocktail’s with friends for a couple of hour’s but then home to reconnect again.
There is brilliant book ‘The Introvert’s Way, Sophia Dembling talks about feeling drained after investing a lot of energy into people, however there are people that give you that energy back. This is so true, if I have a meaningful conversation I feel energised. However extroverts don’t need meaningful conversations they need surface talking – this drains us.
What’s wrong with me? Why do I only like deep conversation’s? As an Introvert I know I’ve asked myself these questions over and over again.When you find yourself asking these question answer back with what’s wrong with thinking so deeply, whats wrong with wanting to have a deep conversation. Once we start saying this to ourselves we start to realise that we have strengths and this what makes us, the people we are. Thinking deeply gives us insight, being alone can make us more creative.
We are just fine as we are. We don’t need to act like an extrovert. You are great just how you are.